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Undefiled The Sex Handbook for Married Couples

The Philosophy of Marraige

In the context of a Christian Marriage, the partners must realise that they are "IT" for each other. There is no lawful, sexual fulfillment outside of marriage and as such, they must strive to fulfil each other's sexual desires and fantasies. A spouse that stubbornly refuse to experiment sexually, within the boundaries of the undefiled sexual relationship with his/her husband, is defrauding their marriage partner, setting them up for frustration and temptation.

An excerpt from Chapter 14 (p 268)

The husband who has brought his wife to this expanded orgasm and kept her in the orgasmic state for so long, has a deep feeling of acknowledgement of his manhood, accomplishment and joy, as well as being intrigued by the mystery of his wife's sexual response and his prowess as a lover. The wife in turn, who has enjoyed this marvellous sexual, emotional and spiritual experience finds herself uniquely in tune with herself and bonded with her husband, who has showed such power over her body. When the husband manages to separate the climax and the orgasm and the were able to sustain him in a place of suspense and heigtened pleasure, the level of trust between them will increase dramatically with this confirmation that sex is not merely a tool of self-gratification, but that they indeed strive to provide each other with the greatest service, that of fulfillment.

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UNDEFILED - THE SEX HANDBOOK FOR MARRIED COUPLES

CHAPTERS:

1. What is Lawful and What is Not

An in-depth look at sexual practices that fall outside of the 'undefiled' marriage bed, (fornication, adultery, rape, incest, homosexuality, bestiality and prostitution) and their effects on marriage, plus a comparison between Christian and Secular Sexual Ethics.

2. Sexual Freedom & Purity in Marriage

Attaining freedom from sexual hang-ups and misconceptions in order to find fulfillment and joy within the sancity of one's own marriage.

The First Time

This section of the book will be an invaluable tool for those who enter marriage as virgins and those who have chosen to wait for their wedding night, before having sex, but it also is an important reference for couples who find themselves frustrated and feel they started out on the wrong foot or with false expectations, based on ignorance or tainted information.

3. Before the Wedding

4. Preparing Yourself - The Bride

Practical advice regarding contraception, the visit to the Gynaecologist, preparing yourself mentally, emotionally and physically for sex.

5. Preparing Yourself - The Groom

Expelling some of the common myths about sex, with practical help to prepare mentally, emotionally and physically for sex.

6. How the Wife and Husband Experience Sex

The physiology of sex and the sexual experience for husband and wife, with some basic biology (with scetches)

7. Making Love - The Wedding Night and Honeymoon

Helpful hints and possible scenarios for couples engaging in sex for the first time, as well as those who want to recapture some of their honeymoon enchantment.

8. What About...?

Very frank and open answers to many of the questions modern couples ask about sex and sexual practices and trends. The author does not merely give her own opinion on matters, but sets out to provide an unbiased, Biblical, well-researched and logical answers to difficult questions.

9. The Stages of Marriage

The role and nature of sexual intimacy through the different stages of marriage, namely Infatuation and Euphoria, Disenchantment and Conflict, Growing together and Euphoria Restored.

10. Preparations for Lovemaking

Practical hints for setting the stage for seuxal intimacy.

11. Techniques for Foreplay

The premise being that most couples engage in sex too often without sufficient arousal, the author believes that foreplay is a vital part of marital intimacy and done properly, will strongly increase the pleasure of lovemaking.

12. Sexual Techniques

Advice to put into practice in order to increase the pleasure of the sexual experience.

13. Positions for Lovemaking

A chapter with illustrations and descriptions for lovemaking positions.

14. The Expanded Orgasm

For those who wish to reach a deeper level of sexual skill, the Expanded Orgasm describes a particular method of sexual expression based on an increased awareness of the spouse as the object of one's desire as well as of oneself in the context of sexuality.

15. The Use of Intimate Accessories

A description of different aids and accessories available and their possible role in adding to a couple's sex-play.

16. Sex and Money

No two things are so personally experienced than Sex and Money and this chapter helps couples to allign their views on finances and alleviate the burden and conflict that money matters can bring into the bedroom.